Pet Loss

A pet is a member of the family. Your pet can take you for a walk, listen when you need someone to talk to, or even guard your house. A pet can also lower your blood pressure, change your heart rate, or alleviate feelings of chronic loneliness. With this capacity to love your pet, comes the necessity to grieve when that "best friend" dies. The death of a pet is, without a doubt, a traumatic experience.

A Pet's Death is Traumatic

No, it's not "just a dog" or "just a cat." The animal is a family member. With the death of a pet the family experiences a very great loss. A difficult problem, however, is that society often denies you the need to grieve for your pet. You may even be chastised for openly and honestly expressing your feelings. As a result, you may bury, hide or even try to ignore your grief. This is not good; grief should be expressed. Although denied understanding and support, your family needs to grieve the death of their pet. Grieving means to express your feelings, no matter how painful.

Memories are Very Helpful

Memories are one of the best legacies in the death of a pet. Talk about and embrace these memories. Your pet entertained, comforted, frustrated and always loved you. Remember those times. If your memories bring laughter, smile. If they bring sadness, cry. Remember, though, memories made in love can never be taken away.

Your Emotions Will Be Very Mixed

When your pet dies, you will probably experience a variety of emotions: confusion, disorganization, sadness, explosive emotions or guilt. Don't repress these feelings, and ignore anyone who tells you that you should. Don't over-analyze your response. Just allow your feelings to find expression. As strange as some of these feelings may seem, they are normal and healthy. Each family member probably had a unique relationship with the pet. Allow for different emotional responses within the family, and be careful to respect each person's need to grieve in his or her own way.